Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I
have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I've
noticed that the category of "Self Improvement" has been showing up
lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news.
have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I've
noticed that the category of "Self Improvement" has been showing up
lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news.
But what does it really mean to "Self Improve?" What are we really
improving when we self improve? And what "self" are we improving?
improving when we self improve? And what "self" are we improving?
We each have two "selves" - our wounded self and our core Self. Our
core Self is our true self, our natural soul self - our essence. Our core
Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our
creativity. We come into this life as our core Self, and when this Self is
loved and valued by our parents, we continue to naturally grow our God-
given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This Self
wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to fully express itself.
core Self is our true self, our natural soul self - our essence. Our core
Self is our passion, our joy, our gifts and talents, our ability to love, our
creativity. We come into this life as our core Self, and when this Self is
loved and valued by our parents, we continue to naturally grow our God-
given gifts and talents and manifest the fullness of our beings. This Self
wants to improve by learning the skills necessary to fully express itself.
But when this Self is not seen and valued in the way we needed, we
create an alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting
the love we need and avoiding the pain we can't handle - a self to help
us feel safe. This is our false self, our wounded self, our ego self. This
self is filled with the false beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing
up - beliefs that end up limiting our true, core Self. This self does not
needs improving - it needs healing.
create an alternative self, a self we hope will have control over getting
the love we need and avoiding the pain we can't handle - a self to help
us feel safe. This is our false self, our wounded self, our ego self. This
self is filled with the false beliefs that we absorbed as we were growing
up - beliefs that end up limiting our true, core Self. This self does not
needs improving - it needs healing.
The term "self improvement" can sometimes be a bit misleading,
because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want
to improve on the ways we lie, manipulate, and avoid in our attempts to
have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We don't want to
improve on our many addictions to substance and processes. We don't
want to improve on our anger, our compliance, our withdrawal and our
resistance.
because we do not want to improve our wounded self. We do not want
to improve on the ways we lie, manipulate, and avoid in our attempts to
have control over getting love and avoiding pain. We don't want to
improve on our many addictions to substance and processes. We don't
want to improve on our anger, our compliance, our withdrawal and our
resistance.
We want to heal it.
Healing and improving are not the same thing.
We can certainly self-improve when it comes to skills. We can improve in
sports, in art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and
wellbeing by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve
in the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and
money. We might be able to improve our relationships by learning new
communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills
does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our
relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy
and inner peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears
and false beliefs that cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-
ridden, shamed, withdrawn, angry, blaming, or sad.
sports, in art, music, writing, cooking. We can improve our health and
wellbeing by improving our diet and exercise program. We can improve
in the knowledge we need to be more successful regarding work and
money. We might be able to improve our relationships by learning new
communication skills. But what if acquiring new knowledge and skills
does not improve our health, or our ability to earn money, or our
relationships? And what if learning new skills does not bring us more joy
and inner peace? It may mean that we need to heal the underlying fears
and false beliefs that cause us to be anxious, depressed, stressed, guilt-
ridden, shamed, withdrawn, angry, blaming, or sad.
Sometimes Self Improvement just means practicing a skill, and others
times it means that we need to participate in a deep healing process.
For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight
and exercising. But if their food addictions are covering over unhealed
pain, they might not be able to just change their diet. They might need to
open to a healing process in order to eventually improve.
times it means that we need to participate in a deep healing process.
For example, many people try to improve their health by losing weight
and exercising. But if their food addictions are covering over unhealed
pain, they might not be able to just change their diet. They might need to
open to a healing process in order to eventually improve.
If you are really trying to self improve but find yourself stuck and unable
to progress, or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want
to open to the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking
your progress and causing your pain. It is easy to improve yourself when
there is nothing blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about
your adequacy and worth, these beliefs may be blocking your ability to
take loving action in your own behalf.
to progress, or find that you have no joy or inner peace, you might want
to open to the possibility that unhealed pain and beliefs are blocking
your progress and causing your pain. It is easy to improve yourself when
there is nothing blocking the way. But if you have old false beliefs about
your adequacy and worth, these beliefs may be blocking your ability to
take loving action in your own behalf.
All your efforts to self improve will
not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if you have beliefs that are
keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core Self. If you are
stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process, such as the Inner
Bonding process we teach, that will move you out of the fears and
beliefs that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open
the door to improving your life in all ways!
not bring you the satisfaction you are seeking if you have beliefs that are
keeping you limited in fully expressing your true, core Self. If you are
stuck, then you need to seek out a healing process, such as the Inner
Bonding process we teach, that will move you out of the fears and
beliefs that limit you. Healing these fears and limiting beliefs will open
the door to improving your life in all ways!
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com Phone Sessions Available.
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